Approaching new people can be quite scary. By opening up, we make ourselves vulnerable. Small talk is a great way to “test the grounds”, so to speak. It’s useful for bonding with a new person in your life, and in situations where a more personal dialogue might not be appropriate.
Here are some good small talk questions for many occasions and social settings that can be used with strangers and people you know.
- Small talk conversation starters
- Small talk questions to get to know someone you just met
- Casual questions for small talk
- Fun small talk questions
- Party questions
- Small talk questions for an acquaintance
- Small talk questions to ask a guy
- Small talk questions to ask a girl
- Small talk conversation topics
- What do you like the most about your job?
- What do you do when you’re not working?
- What do you like the most about living here?
- You prefer living in the countryside or in a city?
- Do you prefer to visit people or have guests?
- What would you do if you never had to work?
- Do you know any good gyms here in the city?
- Did you hear [story] on the news today?
- I just love the weather around here, is it always like that this time of the year?
- Do you like board games or video games?
- Nice to meet you, what’s your name?
- How do you know people here?
- Are you from around here?
- Do you come here often?
- Have we met before?
- What do you do?
- What brings you here?
- What do you think of this place?
- How was your trip here?
- Are you into sports?
- What’s your favorite music genre?
- Do you follow any internet personalities?
- Have you seen any good movies lately?
- Do you have any plans for the weekend?
- What’s your favorite color?
- How was your weekend?
- What do you usually do in your free time?
- How do you guys know each other?
- Do you ever go to any kind of live shows?
- Do you watch [Insert TV-show]?
- What’s one spot that I should definitely visit in this city?
- Do you have any pets?
- What food do you like the most?
- What food do you like the least?
- Do you have a TV at home?
- How was the traffic today?
- You’re on death row for kidnapping a puppy. What’s your food of choice? Would you get stuffed or eat a light meal?
- Do you ever feel like you’re in a movie?
- If you could turn into an animal for a week – provided that you’d survive – which one would you pick?
- Pizza or tacos?
- What’s the first thing you’d do after winning the lottery?
- What would you call your autobiography?
- If you had the power to create one thing perfectly, just as you imagined it, what would it be?
- If you were a band leader – what kinda music do you play and what’s your band called?
- An all-out war between cats and dogs: who wins and why?
- What’s the silliest thing you’d do if you had unlimited money and resources?
- Would you rather fight a horse-sized duck or 100 duck-sized horses?
- How’d you feel if you couldn’t use your smartphone for a year?
- How many five-year-olds could you fight at the same time?
- If you owned a gay bar, what would you call it?
- If you could only celebrate one holiday, which one would it be?
- So what came first, the chicken or the egg?
- How do you know the people here?
- How are you liking the party so far?
- Hey, what’s your name?
- Do you want a drink?
- What’s that you’re drinking?
- How many drinks are you on?
- The cake is delicious, have you tried it?
- What’s your favorite thing here?
- Have you tried the [food or drink on the table]?
- Do you know what song that is they’re playing?
- Is it always this many people here?
- Do you know anyone here?
- How do you guys know each other?
- What do you think about the music here?
- How long do those parties usually last?
- Do you come here often?
- Do these parties happen often?
- Did you come here alone?
- Do you like this place?
- Wanna go out for some fresh air?
- What’s your favorite holiday?
- What’s your favorite time of the day/year?
- Do you enjoy how hectic the holidays feel sometimes or do you dislike it?
- How’s the house renovation coming along?
- How was the vacation? Where’d you go?
- Do you like guns?
- What’s your favorite beverage?
- How are the kids?
- Remember how I mentioned [something you mentioned before]? Well, guess what happened?
- Last time you mentioned that [something they mentioned]. How did it go?
- What do you think about long-distance relationships?
- Do you prefer big parties or the ones where everyone knows each other?
- Are you good at cooking?
- Do you like dancing?
- Do you think it’s okay to have bad habits?
- Ever think about starting a family?
- Would you learn a new language to break the language barrier with someone you love?
- Would you follow your significant other if they got a big promotion at work?
- Do you like it when people “play games” with each other?
- Ever stole someone’s heart by accident?
- Do you have any siblings?
- Would you ever want to live in another country?
- Do you need to see your friends often?
- How do you balance work and personal life?
- Would you consider moving halfway across the world for someone you love?
- Can life be fulfilling if you don’t have anyone to share it with?
- Do you drink alcohol?
- What’s the best way to deal with a breakup?
- Ever had a crush on someone online?
- What kind of behavior do you find unattractive?
Most people love talking about stuff they’re passionate about. And if someone has a hobby, they most certainly have passion for it – that’s what hobbies are, after all.
You can ask the person about something they’re already into, or go with something like “Are there any hobbies you’re thinking of starting up?”
While not everyone is a big foodie, most people do tend to eat something once in a while. So there’s a pretty big chance that it’s gonna be a topic that the other person can relate to.
Asking about preferences is always a safe bet: “Salt or sugar?”, or you could venture a bit deeper and talk about preparing meals at home: “What’s your cooking specialty?”
It doesn’t get too deep and it’s easily relatable. So it can be a pretty good option to start off with, later transitioning into other, perhaps more interesting topics, if the conversation does pick up.
You could ask them for a personal opinion with something like “Do you think it’s going to rain today?”, or “Do you think this weather is gonna keep up for much longer”. Or you could go with a more practical “Do you know what the weather will be like today?”, but only if you genuinely want to know what the weather is gonna be like.
Work can be a good topic for small talk – expectations, plans, funny stories, comparing your work environments, etc.
“Is your current job what you expected it to be?”. And if you know the other person doesn’t like their job very much, you can let them vent a little by asking something like, “What’s your most frustrating moment at work?”
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Pretty much everyone is into something – movies, shows, books, music, theater, youtube, you name it. It’s a fun one to talk about, and it’s a great way to find commonalities.
There are endless questions you can ask when it comes to entertainment, but your best bet is asking about things the other person likes: “Do you like [Genre]?”, “Have you read any good books lately?”, or something like “Do you prefer movies that make you think or the ones that let you relax?”
You probably shouldn’t go too much into controversial or political themes when it comes to talking about the news casually, but talking about safer, rather more positive happenings – local or around the world – can be a good idea.
You can either bring up something interesting you’ve heard or ask them about something they’ve heard about: “Have you heard anything interesting lately?”, “Do you follow the news?”. News doesn’t necessarily have to be huge and world defining – it can even be something simple, like a good new local restaurant opening.
It’s a topic that lets you learn more about the person you’re talking to – their lifestyle, the way they like to spend their time and even their goals in life. Besides, travels are usually associated with vacationing, so it’s a pretty positive thing to talk about as well.
If you don’t know whether the person went on any trips recently, you can ask them about some of their latest travels. Alternatively, you can go for something more general, like “What’s your favorite trip ever?” or “How do you feel about being away from home when traveling?”