42 Signs a Girl Likes You (How to Know if She Has a Crush)

How do you know if a girl likes you or even has a crush on you?

My name is Viktor Sander. I’ve coached hundreds of men to have more success with women.

Here’s a list of 42 signs to help you understand if a girl likes you.

1. Is she laughing at all your jokes?

This has always been a BIG GREEN SIGN of interest for me. I’ve seen it both in most of the girls I’ve dated and also in girls my friends have dated. If she got a crush on you, she will most likely think all your jokes are super funny even if they aren’t.

Read more: How to be funny (for un-funny people).

2. Is she mirroring you?

Mirroring means that her body language, posture, or even what she’s saying reflects what you said or did. So if you take a sip of your glass, if she’s mirroring that, she’ll also take a sip of her glass. Or if you cross your legs and she does the same, that’s also mirroring.

Take note that mirroring is done subconsciously when she has a very good rapport with you. But it can also be done consciously if she really wants to impress you or bond with you. It’s a great sign either way.

3. Has she added you on social media?

This one means she wants to stay in touch and is at least a little bit interested in you. It also makes it a lot easier for you to take initiative.

4. Is she writing you long texts?

Is she always giving you short answers, or is she giving you a small novel as a reply?

If her texts are about the same length or longer than yours, that’s great. It’s especially good if they’re longer than yours.

If you’re usually giving her long replies, but not getting the same in return, it means you’re probably too eager. In that case, it’s often good to step back a bit and try to match her better. Give her some space so she wants to come back to you again.

5. Is she teasing you?

Is it mean teasing or more flirty and light-hearted?

Most forms of teasing (even mean) are usually a sign she’s interested in you. I LOVE it when a girl I like tries to tease me. It means she’s trying to create a flirty vibe between you and that she wants a reaction from you. Just don’t take it too seriously and try to have fun with her!

6. Is she leaning in toward you?

If she’s leaning in toward you, that’s a sign she’s eager to get your attention or get her message across. And in the best case, it also means she’s eager to get closer to you.

7. Is she getting closer to you than others?

If you’re in a conversation and you feel like she’s edging closer to you, or as if she’s almost uncomfortably too close to you, that’s a good sign. It could mean she’s attracted to you and wants to feel closer to you both physically and mentally.

Take note that different cultures have different “personal spaces”. So, if she’s from a different culture than you, it might just be because of that.

8. Is she biting her lip?

Biting herself lightly in the lip is a flirty and cute (or sexy) signal. If she’s biting herself in the lip while you’re talking, that’s great. She’s probably into you.

9. Is she smiling toward you?

If she’s smiling toward you from afar, that’s an invitation to approach her. Or she’s flirting with you. (I’m assuming you didn’t just forget to put your pants on when leaving home. I almost did that once, not recommended!)

If she’s smiling toward you when you’re in a conversation, that’s a sign she likes you. Especially if she has a light smile while you’re not even joking.

10. Is she licking her lips or teeth?

Is she licking her lips or teeth? This is similar to biting her lips, but a bit more subtle and less flirty. Still a good sign she might like you.

11. Is she blinking more than normal?

If she’s blinking more than normal, that’s a good sign.

12. Are her pupils larger than normal?

If her pupils get large when you’re in a conversation, you’re doing something right. This one is quite subtle because pupil size is primarily determined by light levels, but secondarily attraction can also increase pupil size.

13. Is she keeping eye contact longer than normal?

If you notice that she’s holding eye contact slightly longer than normal, she’s probably interested in you. That kind of eye contact often feels more intense, and can even be a bit weird or uncomfortable.

14. Is she giving you a light smile when you make eye contact?

Say that you’re all standing in a circle, and when someone else is talking, you two get eye contact. Does she give you a slight smile? She likes you.

Same thing if you get eye contact at a distance, in a park or at a bar. A smile is like an invitation to start talking.

15. If there’s background music, what’s her body language, and what is she looking at?

This sign is most useful at a place with some background music, for example at a bar or a club.

If she’s moving in rhythm with the background music and at the same time looking at you, that’s a sign she’s attracted to you. Dancing like that and looking at you is an inviting form of body language. That tells you she wants your attention and is trying to get you to make a move.

16. What’s her posture like around you?

Does she straighten her posture when she gets your attention or is close to you? That means she’s trying to make a good impression on you.

17. What direction is her body facing in a group?

If she’s facing you more often than she’s facing others in a group, that’s a sign she’s into you and values you more than others in the group. This is especially telling if you’re not even the one talking the most in the group.

18. Where are her feet pointing?

If her feet are pointing toward you, that’s a sign in the same line as if her body is facing you. She’s subconsciously focused on you which makes her feet point toward you.

19. Is she fiddling with or straightening her clothes, jewelry, or accessories?

This could be because of nervosity, but it can also be because she wants to look good in front of you. It’s a classic sign of attraction.

20. What direction are her palms facing?

If the palms of their hands are pointed in your direction that signals she might be interested in you. It’s a weak signal, but it’s still positive because it’s part of an open and welcoming body language she has toward you.

21. If you touch her, does she touch you back?

For example, if you touch her arm, does she touch you in a similar area later on in the conversation? If she does reciprocate your touch, that’s a great sign, but it also depends on if she’s touchy with most people or just you?

Also, shy girls usually don’t touch back because they’re so afraid of messing up.

22. Does she touch you when you talk or in any other situations?

Common areas to touch are arms, shoulders, back, hands, or thighs. Hands or thighs are usually more intimate if she touches those.

23. Do you ever have “peripheral physical contact”?

Peripheral physical contact is when some part of your bodies are in contact with each other when you are doing something else.

For example, if you’re both sitting down and your thighs are barely touching each other. Or if you’re walking side by side and she grabs hold of your arm. That kind of passive physical contact means a lot and can build a lot of tension and attraction.

24. Is she giving you more of her attention than she’s giving others?

For example, if you’re in a group but she seems to direct most of her attention toward you. Or if she’s only asking you questions or if she’s laughing more than others at your jokes.

The more attention she gives you, the more interested she usually is in you.

25. Does she ever blush when you talk or get eye-contact?

She might just be shy, but she’s probably a bit extra self-conscious around you because she likes you.

26. Does she ever seem to look in your direction from afar?

Girls are often a bit sneaky when they want to check you out. They can make it seem like they’re only looking in your direction or just grazing you with her eyes. I’ve even seen girls using window reflections to check out a guy (and to check if he’s looking at them). Sunglasses are even sneakier.

So if she’s looking in your direction, especially if she does it several times, she’s probably checking you out.

27. Does she keep the conversation going when you stop talking?

What happens when you stop talking or can’t come up with anything to say? If she seems eager to get the conversation going again, that’s good. If she excuses herself, she may not be that interested.

Click here to read my full guide on how to talk to girls.

28. Does she always reply when you call, text, or message her?

Quicker responses are often a sign of interest. But many girls are so afraid of appearing needy that they delay their response even if they like you.

29. Who texts or calls first?

If she’s often the one initiating, that’s a very strong sign she’s into you.

But if she never calls or texts first, that’s a sign of lack of interest. In that case, it can be good to take a step back to see if she will take initiative when you don’t do it before she even has the chance.

30. How often does she text you?

Compare this to how often you text her. It’s the same principle as matching the length of her texts. She’s eager if she’s texting more often than you, and you’re eager if you’re the one texting more often.

31. Does she ever stammer, stutter, or forget what she was about to say in a conversation with you?

This could mean she’s a bit extra shy or self-conscious around you, which tells you that she might also be a bit extra interested in you.

32. Does she back off if you get a bit too close?

If she doesn’t even flinch when you get a bit too close to her personal space, that’s a sign she wants you close to her.

If you take a step closer, and she backs off by a step, that’s a sign she’s a bit more reserved toward you.

33. Does she ever talk about things she wants to do with you or show you?

Planning or mentioning things they want to do with you in the future is a very strong indication of some sort of interest, romantic or platonic.

For example, if you’re talking about a newly opened restaurant and they say “We should go there someday!” or “I’ll show you how amazing that place is!”

34. How does she react when you discover you have something in common?

If she’s happy, that’s good. This sign is extra strong if it’s something very trivial, like that you live in the same part of town, that you’re the same age, or that you both like pizza.

35. Is she asking you any personal questions?

If she is, that’s telling you that she wants to know more about you and is interested in you. The more she asks, the better.

For example, asking about your plans for the future, your childhood, or just about your favorite food.

36. Has she asked about your plans for the day or the weekend?

This might just be empty small talk, but it could also be her trying to open a window where you can meet again and hang out. It’s more likely it’s a sign of interest if she brings it up near the end of the conversation.

37. Does she seem embarrassed if you two are the only two people left in a situation?

If she does but doesn’t do anything to leave the situation, that means she’s just a bit shy but still interested.

A classic example is if you meet her with her girlfriends at a bar, and then all her friends leave, but she stays. That’s perfect because it also means her friends approve of you.

38. Has she told her friends or family about you?

This one is most relevant once you’ve already started dating. But it’s such a huge sign of interest (and approval) that I thought it was worth mentioning. It’s even bigger if she’s from a culture where approval from the family is important.

If she’s told her family, it means she is visualizing and planning a future with you. Congrats!

If she just told her friends, that’s also great, but not as big as her family.

39. Has she ever offered you a massage?

Offering a massage is a nice thing to do, but it’s also a smooth way for a girl to get you both touching each other. (Remember to offer her one back. If you like her!)

40. Does your best friend like you?

Is she acting differently from how she usually behaves? Does she seem jealous or dismissive of other girls you might like? Is she suddenly extra touchy-feely? Is she unusually interested in your interests?

Those are all signs your best friend might have started liking you as more than a friend.

41. How do you know for sure if she’s interested?

You can’t really know for sure if she’s interested just based off of a sign in this list. But there are a few rules you can use to help you know:

  1. Is she regularly showing you different signs of interest?
  2. Does she act differently to others than to you? (So she’s not just flirty with everyone.)
  3. Has she shown any particularly strong signs of interest?

42. Are you still unsure if she likes you?

Write it down in the comments below in as much detail as possible for other commenters to help you out. I’ll also respond to a few of the most interesting comments. But I can’t keep up with all the comments alone, so try to help others by answering them too.

Viktor is a Counselor specialized in interpersonal communication and relationships. He manages Socialpro’s scientific review board. Follow on Twitter or read more.

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  1. She’s lookin at me alot and when i look back at her she look’s away she also asked me who i like and i said nobody
    She did also ask if i like her and i said no but i added her on Snapchat Then she randomly Said that she doesn’t know me to well. Idk if she has feeling’s but she Still wanna get to know me better.

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  2. So, I’m in high school and I really like this girl! She’s given me lots of signs that she likes me! But I still don’t know! I have noticed that she stares at me, changes her personality when I’m around (to a teasing, sarcastic mood. Just for fun and to make me laugh) she laughs at my jokes even if they are not too funny. So this leaves me wondering… Should I confess?

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  3. I’m in middle school right now (even though I live in Australia) and there’s this girl who sits sort of close to me. She usually flicks a glance at me every now and then but doesn’t smile. She also seems to walk a bit closer to me than other people. Is this a sign that she likes me or just wants to talk to me?

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  4. So, high school started 8 weeks ago and I know this girl that I’ve spoken to sometimes in 8th grade but we haven’t made conversation, only small talk. But I’ve noticed this girl looking at me a lot in 8th grade, and while our school was hybrid she followed me on Instagram, so I followed her back,
    (Common sense).
    She then started telling me things such as, I look like geared way From mcr or John bender from the breakfast club, she was grunge mixed with indie girl
    I’m a grunge kid also so it makes sense, I’m getting off-topic.
    So I’ve been going to study hall after lunch and she had recently been sitting next to me when her seat was in the front row of the desks, and she would be applying one of those chap lip things to her and putting gum in her mouth as if she’s trying to make a good impression. She’s also asked me to hang out with her and her friends does she like me or does she want to be my friend.

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  5. Ok, so I have this friend who is very religious. She says she is straight but shows all these signs she likes me. Whenever I’m with her, the vibe feels very different than how it does if I’m with a normal friend. She blushes when she talks to me, asks me very personal questions about marriage, dating, and where I want to live in the future. She also gave me a book about astrology that she bought because it reminded me of her, and surprised me with my favorite snack from Trader Joe’s. I’ve only been friends with her for a year, and these things are done within months of knowing her. I feel a sort of romantic tension between us. She says she’s straight but I feel like she’s hiding something, because what is with these signs? Am I being crazy or is something there?

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    • I think she’s scared of telling you what is on her mind but you can kindly ask her stylishly for her to confess to you. you can ask her on an outing to know what is on her mind. thanks

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  6. So there’s this girl I like. And when we were doing walking. With some other people in my group. I tripped and fell over and some stuff came out of my bag. So then I put the stuff in my bag. And couldn’t zip the bag up. So she helped me. And she also told the other people in my group to stop being rude to me. Also when we walked into this field of cows. One of the people in my group agitated them so the cows came over. And the people in my group tried to stop them. And she told me to come with her. So can you tell me what all of this means?

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  7. So I and this girl have been talking for a bit, and we always have long periods of eye contact, even among our friend group, and she always seems to smile while we talk. I also noted that even when talking in a group she faces me and stares at me more than the other people there. Because we wear masks, I can’t really see any other facial expressions. But we did go out and get coffee twice, she paid for mine once and I paid for hers the other time. And recently she started talking about things she finds romantic (i.e. it was raining and she said she thought the rain was romantic as we were walking together).

    Are these signs I should try and take her on a date soon or is that too little to go off of?

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  8. So I am talking with a girl somewhat frequently. When we are together, we typically stare into each other’s eyes for a prolonged period of time, even when we are with our group, and often smile. We are usually wearing our masks because of the pandemic, but a smile is still visible. I can’t tell about any other mouth-related signs though. We talk about things we like and dislike, and we went and picked up coffee together twice just the two of us, though not as a date or anything, and she bought mine the first time and I bought hers the second time. And recently she started talking about things she thinks are romantic. And I think to some extent she is comfortable around me, but I’m not sure to what extent.

    Should I try asking her out on a formal date based on that info, or is that too little to do anything with?

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    • Try asking her out so you can kindly feel comfortable and ask her what she likes about you maybe through that you can get what you need from her. I think she’s interested in your

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  9. I like a girl on the bus who I asked out last week. She said yes but 5 min later she broke up. Ever since I have been getting VERY small hints that she likes me. Although I caught her looking and when I looked she kept eye contact. But in spite of me being nervous, I looked away. I asked her out to homecoming and she said that she may not be going but will tell me if she’s going. Then things went dark and nothing really happened. Then today she started having conversations with me. Idk what to do nothing is a clear answer I can’t tell whether or not I should move on or if I’m on the right track and should keep going. Before I lose my mind pls help me.

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  10. so i just met this girl on a fortnite discord community im in and she did texted 1st which i know is a good sign but now, while in a middle of a match, i felt like i know her in past life and now i feel worried about her…

    what does this mean? i mean we just met and everything so idk!!

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  11. There is this girl I like but I haven’t approach her yet but now her best friend likes me but I don’t have the same emotions for her and I really want to ask her friend out but am afraid she might hear it and may feel I used bcuz I have done things with her so I need response to no the way forward 😹😹😹

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    • Next time you meet with the girl you said, make sure you ask her out before it’s too late for you to recommend. And you let the other one that likes you that you are in love with her friend

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  12. No woman is attracted to me so there are no signals to read. To think otherwise would be delusional. I am attracted to several women, but there is no point in expressing this to them for the same reason. The best [only] option is to keep my feelings to myself.

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  13. sorry its a bit long but will really appreciate your reply will mean alot to me.There was this my family friend I use to talk to. So around last year October we started talking talking alot in such a way we started going deep. In ways that she asked me if I had a girl friend and I said no and I asked her the same and she told me she has never dated she’s 21years and I’m 25. She sent me her pictures sometimes without me asking. And when I asked for hers sometimes, and she says I have to send mine first. We chat and make calls till midnight and and she told me she liked me twice ( the first time I asked her if she liked me she said “yeah sometimes you are cool”) she’s a shy girl. I asked her jokingly if she would be my valentine and she said “sure if you are taking me out”. I didn’t take her out on valentine because I was busy but I found time a month later and took her out twice in a week she was very happy and said we need to do more of that. I knew she was happy because she was nervous and even when I tried to snap her for the first time she kept on laughing she couldn’t stay with a straight face all the pictures were of her laughing. Sometimes we have have fight because I act insecure. So we had a fight like towards the end may and I shouted at her and told her talking to her was a mistake I regret knowing her and she told me the same thing, and she disconnected the phone on me. I sent her a message never to call me again and I hate her and we stopped talking. that happened like 26th of may 2021. I also unfriended her on Snapchat and unfollowed her on Instagram but she never unfollowed me (even though I told her I did unfollowed her).
    After like 2weeks that’s like 15th June 2021 she sent me a dm but deleted it after like 20mins then I called her and asked her politely what she sent, she started acting up saying it was a mistake. That why did I even call her, didn’t I say I wasn’t going to call her again that I shouldn’t call her again she doesn’t like me and she never said she did blah blah blah. So I left her. I went no contact for 6 weeks and then called called her again the phone ranged for like 1second and she picked the call so fast she was talking with me but was still trying to acted angry like she wasn’t interested lol, we talked for like 10mins and I disconnected the call. Then I called her again after 3days around 8pm she didn’t pick my call but called me back twice around 12:30am. Then I called her back the next day and when she picked up she told me that that she didn’t call me I said she did and she said it was a mistake(she called me twice lol) then she brought back what happened months back and was telling me I said I will never call her that I should think about all what I told her and I’m acting like everything is normal that she doesn’t even know why I’m calling her e.t.c she kept complaining for like 20mins straight I just laughed about it because I have learnt my mistakes and acted indifferent to her emotions. After that we ended the call so last week I called her the last time and she acted normal we laughed and I asked her if she’s dating now she told no she’s not dating. We teased each other other abit and laughed about it. Then I called her one last time again she was on a call, when she was done I asked her to call me back she didn’t she said she’s not in the mood (lol she just finished making calls with only god knows who and shes telling me she’s not in the mood to talk) that I can’t be calling her everyday like before. Then I simply told her “I want to be calling you when I want it’s either that or I don’t call you ever again” she said she never said I should never call her but u should be calling once in a while. I said I don’t want that and asked her for the second time should I stop calling her totally? She said she didn’t say I should stop calling her I should once in a while. So it’s been one week now and I don’t intend to call her again till she contacts me. Mind you I have never asked her to be my girlfriend but I do have feelings for her. What I need to know from you please is does she have feelings for me, and does she still cares for me? P.S there was a time she asked me if I loved her and I joked about it and avoided the question because I wasn’t that into her.

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    • First, say you’re sorry but Be her friend for a little while find out her interests find out what you have in common, does she like sports music dancing anything. then do something you both like or are both interested in but don’t rush you don’t want to sound too desperate and the relationship will grow from there

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  14. What do you do if your crush, after talking to her, seems a bit annoyed, and curt with her answers. Almost as if she isn’t making an effort to keep the conversation alive. But when around other people, she talks with more alertness?

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    • means she’s not sure about you. she thinks you are too eager but there’s some interest. best solution, let her see you with other girls and don’t reply her texts right away. 2-3 days with “oh i was busy. what’s up”

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  15. Their is this girl i met in the firpt time i saw her i fell for her. After somedays she begin to show me the sign above we went out alot on one nigth i finaly tell her how i feel about her but she did not reply me. The next day she begin to ignore me the newt thing i saw her with another guy which is my best friend i need u advice on what to do should i leave her alone or should i aproach her?

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  16. Ss theres this girl named cathryn she was nice to me she talked to me then i told her that i like her then she was silent saw her 4 more times after that only the 3rd time she smiled and said something to me since then i haven’t seen her yet since then

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  17. So I and this girl were in a group and after a year we became closer than before. When we are closed from meetings even if her house is in the opposite direction she will at least excort me my brother and my friends half way home talking to me mostly she is always looking for my trouble . Later I started liking her and when I told her I like her all she said was she does not want then she stopped talking to me and avoiding me. One day she stopped avoiding me and talked to me and even smiled at me on that day . I still like her but don’t know what to think anymore

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  18. So I met this beautiful ,really intelligent ,sweet girl at Starbucks. The first time I spoke to her, there was something kind almost magical about how I felt we were both interacting. ….And even though I don’t see her very often …whenever I do she always makes sure that she spends time talking to me and looks at me in a way that I’m almost positive she really really likes me. She even has a nickname for me which I don’t know I’ve ever had a girl do that. I have done very well with women and I really feel I know when they like me …but, I sometimes still get scared. I finally worked up the courage to actually go directly in to see her… she came up called me my nickname even stuttered …talked to me for a few minutes and then went back to her work. Now I understand that she needs to do her job but, after our interaction she never looked at me again until I walked out of the door where I could see her looking at me. Do you have any advice on this because right now I don’t want to go through any more rejection…???

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    • She likes you, or she wouldn’t keep approaching you. But then she gets nervous and flustered and backs away. I’m guessing she feels the same as you – interested, but afraid to overstep. Try asking for her help with something, for instance, helping you decide between two gifts for a family member. You can show them to her on your phone and get her leaning in close and see if she’s comfortable with that or if she takes the phone out of your hand to get some distance. Also, asking for her help conveys that you value her opinion, it gives her an opportunity to follow up on another day and ask how it’s going with picking out the gift. You can joke with her and say you’re still having trouble, and that you’re going to have to take her shopping with you. If she responds positively, as if she would go shopping with you, then she likes you. If she just laughs then stays silent, or just changes the subject, then she’s probably not interested. This way you can get a better sense of her feelings without risking direct rejection if you ask her out.

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  19. So. I have a dilema.
    Two girls at school I like. Both show 40% of the signs. One has friendzoned me and one was in a relationship but while they don’t talk anymore, I have no idea whether it’s on or off. First stared at me alot and is very talkative around me. When we are alone she is a lot more relaxed and lets down walls of atitude. She has always had a soft spot for me. Second is generaly confident but is nervous around me, plays with her hair and kinda asked me if I had phone number. Unfortunatley I still live with the dinosaurs and only have discord. Their both really nice to me. Me and the second agree alot, while the first andI have healthy competition. Pls help before I lose my mind!!!

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    • Go for the second one to play it safe, but act interested in both of them when their both around. They will get jealous of each other and be more interested in you. Also, the jealousy will be more long term if you keep hanging out with both of them even after you’re with one (remember to hang out with both at the same time, but NEVER invite them both to the same place). Also, if you want to make the relationship more long term, stop talking with the other one because it will show that your dedicated.

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      • Thanks sommuch dude. Been stressing for past couple of months about this issue. Will try when out of lockdown.

  20. This girl said on the phone she wants me to come to the club wit her on he 18th birthday her brother said she said I’m good looking her brother said we ganna smoke at his house she said no not you just me and him her brother said we ganna rent a limo the girl said yea and it’s only ganna be me and him in it she gave me her number she always ask me how I’m doing and she asks me if I’m ok so then I went to see her in person and she acted all shy and she said she’s blushing 2 times and I asked her to sit with me she said it’s to hot then she said let’s go in the front so we did and there was only one chair so she sat in it and I was over her shoulder cus she was showing me and her brother videos then her brother left and she said can you give me space your all up over here but I’m not feeling uncomfortable it’s just I like space then she went in the back and was upset about something her mom said and she just acted like she doesn’t like me but in the phone it’s different and she said she’s blushing 2 times in person and this was are first time seeing each other in person so does she like me?

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  21. I have a friend who gives off many of these signs. She invites me up for drinks and conversation. We talk about everything. And ahe recently started talking about sexual things. Her likes/dislikes and asked me about mine. This is something she doesn’t do with other guys. We went to dinner and right before i made it home she facetime me. I see all this but im still unsure. Help

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  22. They is this girl that is showing me almost all the symtoms above but the funny thing is that she’s actually in a relationship with someone for like 3 years now am really confused lol 😂💀 idk what to do help a guy out???

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    • It may be she has emotions for you but and also for the guy she is dating so I think she to is confused on what to do but no one it may be very hard before she tells u she likes u when she is dating someone so for me i think u should allow her relationship to be over before making further moves

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